There is a German word, Wyrd, that means to determine one's fate. Yet, most people believe there is something outside of us that is defining our fate. Ever heard the phrase, "If it's meant to be, it'll be?" A lot of us have lived our life with this quote floating around in our subconscious. When something doesn't work out the way we want it to or doesn't work out at all, we shrug our shoulders and say, "well, I guess it just wasn't meant to be." There is a lot of discourse in the manifestation and law of attraction community on this topic. If you've been manifesting for a while and aren't seeing any results, is it because your manifestation isn't meant to be? In my opinion, no.

I have spent a lot of time studying Neville Goddard's teachings and listening to people like Deepak Chopra and Joe Dispenza discuss how reality works. I've also read a lot about quantum physics. The more I learn about reality's truths, the more it becomes clear that nothing is "meant to be." Instead, we are the ones consciously creating every single experience we have. 

According to Neville Goddard, you must persist in the assumption of your manifestation until it arrives. The idea that if a manifestation isn't here yet, then it's not meant to be is a misconception and a limiting belief. So if your manifestation isn't here yet, it has nothing to do with whether or not it's meant to be. Instead, it has everything to do with you and how you are getting in your own way.

We all have the free will to choose whatever we want in our lives, whether it's a job, a relationship, etc., we get to decide what is meant for us. Everything we experience is our own manifestation; therefore, nothing outside of us can be deciding whether or not something we want is meant for us. The fact that we have the desire to begin with means that it is in fact meant for us. Otherwise, we wouldn't desire it.

Some people find solace and safety in the idea that someone outside of them has the power to choose what they end up with. They might wait around for their soulmate to arrive or wait for the perfect opportunity to come their way before taking a chance on their dreams. However, I find it empowering to know that I hold the keys to open any door I choose to walk through. The downside is you have to fully let go of victim mentality and take full responsibility for your entire life. This is a big part of why people keep themselves in the "meant to be" mentality. But when you start taking responsibility, that's when everything works out for you.

I can't remember who said it, but I recently heard someone say meant to be is a lazy belief. Instead of doing the hard work that is sometimes required to get the thing you want, you throw in the towel and claim "it's just not meant to be." I found this idea incredibly interesting and eye-opening. Meant to be isn't as beautiful as everyone makes it out to be. It's a lazy excuse not to have to do any work or take control of your own life.

Often when people want to achieve a dream, they give up as soon as things get complicated. They either don't believe they're capable or don't want to put in the work to accomplish it. In relationships, people give up on their partner as soon as things get rocky or if the other person doesn't live up to their unrealistic expectations of absolute perfection. If you put the mental work in, there is no manifestation that you can't achieve because you are a conscious creator, whether you're aware of it or not.

Besides taking responsibility, I had to come to terms with a lot of other things once I realized I was manifesting everything. For one, I had to learn how to trust myself. If I'm the only one deciding what is meant for me, then I'm going to have to trust my own choices and know that I will not betray myself or let myself down. This is a huge one! With the idea of meant to be, we put our trust in something outside of us, assuming that someone other than us knows what's best for us. But this couldn't be farther from the truth. No one should ever know you better than you, and no one should ever get to decide what's best for you other than you.

Accepting the truth requires a lot of mental retraining, and sometimes it requires you to unravel some deep-rooted beliefs and trauma. But in the end, it is always worth it. When you believe that you control your destiny, it opens you up to endless possibilities; it's like cutting into your imagination and letting it bleed out all over your reality. Though it's often more challenging, I promise, it is so much more fun!

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